The Man on His Way

As single women, we have the advantage and opportunity to think about the kind of man that we want to marry. We cannot change any man after we’re married (only the Lord can change someone), so what we see is what we get. Therefore, let’s be sure that we don’t rush into something or accept someone less than God’s best. I know I talk about this in my book Life In the Single Lane, but I came across something the other day that adds to what I say in the chapters "Setting Your Sights High" and "Thinking Ahead" – that we should set our sights high in regards to the character and integrity of the man and also think about the compatibility of our principles, convictions, etc. Here’s what I read:

"When Adam was introduced to Eve, he was a man on his way. She was to add to him, accessorize him. She was to be a ‘help meet’ to him. But you cannot help someone who isn’t on his way!" (T.D. Jakes)

If we marry a man who doesn’t know where he’s going or what God is calling him to, how will we be a "help meet" to him? Are we going to help him wonder around? Please don’t get me wrong, I’m not trying to be sarcastic or degrading to any man who doesn’t know where God is leading him at this point in his life. Everyone’s circumstance is different, as is God’s plan for each of us. However, I personally would rather marry a man who knows where he’s going and is already heading there.

For example, when I marry, my desire is for my husband and I to be in some sort of ministry for the Lord together. I serve the Lord and do His work while I’m single, so why would that all stop once I become one of the "Un-Single"? I don’t want the normal "nine-to-five," go to work, come home mentality, but instead actively serving the Lord together in some capacity. I don’t want to marry a man who has no vision where I would have to drag him along into some sort of ministry. That wouldn’t be right. I am not to lead, but follow and be his "help meet." But if he doesn’t have somewhere that he’s going, how can I help him get there? Anyone can get nowhere with no one’s help.

I want to "add" to my "on his way" Mr. Junior Right, how about you?