As single women, we have the advantage and opportunity to think about the kind of man that we want to marry. We cannot change any man after we’re married (only the Lord can change someone), so what we see is what we get. Therefore, let’s be sure that we don’t rush into something or accept someone less than God’s best. I know I talk about this in my book Life In the Single Lane, but I came across something the other day that adds to what I say in the chapters "Setting Your Sights High" and "Thinking Ahead" – that we should set our sights high in regards to the character and integrity of the man and also think about the compatibility of our principles, convictions, etc. Here’s what I read:
"When Adam was introduced to Eve, he was a man on his way. She was to add to him, accessorize him. She was to be a ‘help meet’ to him. But you cannot help someone who isn’t on his way!" (T.D. Jakes)
If we marry a man who doesn’t know where he’s going or what God is calling him to, how will we be a "help meet" to him? Are we going to help him wonder around? Please don’t get me wrong, I’m not trying to be sarcastic or degrading to any man who doesn’t know where God is leading him at this point in his life. Everyone’s circumstance is different, as is God’s plan for each of us. However, I personally would rather marry a man who knows where he’s going and is already heading there.
For example, when I marry, my desire is for my husband and I to be in some sort of ministry for the Lord together. I serve the Lord and do His work while I’m single, so why would that all stop once I become one of the "Un-Single"? I don’t want the normal "nine-to-five," go to work, come home mentality, but instead actively serving the Lord together in some capacity. I don’t want to marry a man who has no vision where I would have to drag him along into some sort of ministry. That wouldn’t be right. I am not to lead, but follow and be his "help meet." But if he doesn’t have somewhere that he’s going, how can I help him get there? Anyone can get nowhere with no one’s help.
I want to "add" to my "on his way" Mr. Junior Right, how about you?
Wednesday, March 09, 2005
"Action!"
Ever ask yourself the question, "Why is it taking so long to bring this guy around?" I know, I know, crazy question to be asking single gals…but humor me. J I personally have asked that question once…or twice…or something. It is all about God’s perfect and truly impeccable timing, but in our human thinking and human desires, we want it to happen "now." [Do I hear any "Amen’s"!?] We know it all in our heads and we’re doing our best to have the faith and trust and rest in the Lord, but let’s face it – it’s HARD!!!
Well, hold onto your hats, because I read something the other day that just plain knocked my socks off and I hope it will be as encouraging to you. In one of his books, T.D. Jakes eloquently describes the timeline of when Eve was brought to Adam. I think it can be applied to us single gals in waiting for our Mr. Junior Right. He said this:
"She was reserved and held until all things were in place and the stage had been set. She steps onto the stage only when every prop had been carefully contemplated by a God who cares enough to give the very best and is rhythmic enough to know the timing that is required to bring her forward in step with all that he had created."
Isn’t that beautiful!? We’re being reserved until the exact moment when the stage is set, everything and everyone is in place and God calls "Action!" Wow! Isn’t that exciting!?
Of course, while we’re in our season of being single, we’re not just back stage behind the door marked "Star" putting on our make-up, dressing in the most beautiful gown ever seen or styling our hair in the most elegant way, making sure we look our absolute best. We should be busily serving the Director in every role He casts us in. We’re never idle, but always working faithfully doing what He calls us to right now, right here, today. But it is fun and exciting to think about all the behind-the-scenes work He’s doing to get the stage set for our next season premiere!
Remember – let God write and direct your story, it will win the Academy Award, Best Picture, Best Director, Best Actor and Best Actress!
Well, hold onto your hats, because I read something the other day that just plain knocked my socks off and I hope it will be as encouraging to you. In one of his books, T.D. Jakes eloquently describes the timeline of when Eve was brought to Adam. I think it can be applied to us single gals in waiting for our Mr. Junior Right. He said this:
"She was reserved and held until all things were in place and the stage had been set. She steps onto the stage only when every prop had been carefully contemplated by a God who cares enough to give the very best and is rhythmic enough to know the timing that is required to bring her forward in step with all that he had created."
Isn’t that beautiful!? We’re being reserved until the exact moment when the stage is set, everything and everyone is in place and God calls "Action!" Wow! Isn’t that exciting!?
Of course, while we’re in our season of being single, we’re not just back stage behind the door marked "Star" putting on our make-up, dressing in the most beautiful gown ever seen or styling our hair in the most elegant way, making sure we look our absolute best. We should be busily serving the Director in every role He casts us in. We’re never idle, but always working faithfully doing what He calls us to right now, right here, today. But it is fun and exciting to think about all the behind-the-scenes work He’s doing to get the stage set for our next season premiere!
Remember – let God write and direct your story, it will win the Academy Award, Best Picture, Best Director, Best Actor and Best Actress!
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